One of the first things I tell people, who come to me with physical health issues, is that healing is not the same as curing, and their physical issue is not the main event. This kind of statement is usually met with puzzlement, followed by a question like “then what can you help with?”.
When I started out as a professional healer I wasn’t so upfront and bold, mainly because I knew that cures happened through healing work. And they still do. It’s just that now I know that there is a deeper reality than so called ‘perfect health’. A deeper and more fulfilling reality.
There Is Never Anything Truly Wrong
In my experience, the sooner you grasp that there is nothing wrong with you, or going wrong with you, even when it appears something is wrong, the sooner your inner healing intelligence will get to work. And the wider intelligence in the field of Life’s energy will get to work on your behalf. By ‘getting to work’ I mean, your energy and life will move in the direction of what helps you see the Truth. That you are already, and always will be, a state of wholeness.
Contain Not Fix
When you learn to let go of wanting to fix your body (or your emotions, or your life) you begin to lean into your true nature, your inner wholeness. This is like basking in a sea of Light and Love. And these agents, Light and Love, are what heal.
The more you let go wanting to fix your situation the more you become a container within which the agents of Love and Light reveal insights, actions, non-actions, shifts in perspectives and new experiences which make the Truth crystal clear; that you are safe, loved, whole and complete. Just as you are.
Truth Goes Both Ways
When Alan, a dear mentor, realized that trying to fix his body was only making him more sick, he let go and relaxed into deep profound contentment. He literally radiated light. Peace flowed out of every pore of his fading body. Everyone who came to say goodbye was touched by his light. It was almost tangible.
When Patty, a sensitive intuitive soul, gave up struggling with chemotherapy she discovered newfound peace in surrendering to the unknown. And, she noticed her body began to recover, all on its own. Simply by learning to listen, nurture and love it.
Healing Is Guaranteed
I often say that cures are a by-product of healing. Meaning, healing… the realization you are perfect just the way you are… is always available, if you allow it. Cures, when they happen, are a by-product of healing. And, when you know that you are whole, complete, just as you are, the likelihood of a cure is increased. Not as a result of an agenda you might have, certainly not out of wanting to control your body. But because knowing that you are already whole and complete is a highly potent state of being which is supportive of Life.
Fiona,
Oh, my. I’m just letting this article radiate over me, because you put into words something I’ve experienced and yet haven’t articulated. Thank you for putting words to my feelings and framing this for me in a way that makes sense.
Yes, something happens when I drop the fight and inner resistance about whatever is occurring – no matter how messy, wonky or “wrong” my mind thinks it is! (I’m reminded of how a dear friend and our family homeopath describes it – sometimes life brings about “healing crises!”)
With my deepest struggles, so much of my energy was spent fighting against them – depression, anxiety, eating disorders, and challenges with high sensitivity. They were my shame triggers. I wanted to “cut them out,” as if these things were proof of badness that needed to go away.
What has helped me find peace with all of the above is by changing how I relate to them – not in trying to make them go away! Can I relate to my body, to my struggles, to food, to depression, to my emotions, to my thoughts, and to the people around me with acceptance and compassion?
That is how I unkink out of my resistance – even if I approach it with a bit of kicking and screaming! 🙂
Warmly, Karly
That’s beautiful, Karly. It’s amazing how powerful a conscious choice to be accepting, shifts experience towards a more harmonious experience. Tightness, resistance and contraction simply cannot keep a hold on our experience in the choice for compassion. We are powerful healers, indeed.
Fiona
I have a breathing problem and couldnt sleep so i read this and its helping me so Thank you I also lost a part time job which was heavy lifting and i know it was for the best. i love your wriitng. Yes a conscious choice to be accepting is helping.-have you ever written a book>
Dear Roslyn,
I’m sorry to hear about your breathing problem. And, I’m also glad that you’re discovering the healing that comes by cultivation conscious acceptance around what happens in life. This acceptance is not a posture of ‘giving up’. It’s where you let go trying to change things so that your Heart can see a better way which supports your wellbeing.
I encourage you to deeply feel acceptance all the way into your lungs, all the way into the small spaces and pockets of your lungs. Do this as a healing meditation, repeat this. Be curious about how the energy of acceptance begins to loosen and release what is held in your lungs.
Sending love and encouragement, Fiona