The other day I had a surprise treat. I had the opportunity to talk with a client from several years back. We laughed about how I was put through my paces in being patient as she wrestled with the idea that life was not something she needed to learn to tame, like a wild horse, to make it do what she wanted it to, but that life responds by opening to it and trusting.
When it’s time to fly
Of course we’ve now learned from science that birds have a sophisticated inner compass which made the victories a partnership – my uncles careful rearing, and the birds natural ability to orient to their roost. The qu estion that arises is; what compass are you navigating by?
Your inner GPS
She paused before saying that the one thing that consistently worked to bring inner relief and clarity, and helped to open new avenues, was one of the postures she’d learned in our work together – to simply open to the unknown.
Not knowing reveals the way
The reason it’s a challenge to tap into your inner knowing is because your everyday mind loves to figure out strategies that will get you from A to B. It’s uncomfortable to let go of leading with your thinking. You need to be willing to not know how you’ll create your dream, or not know how you’ll meet your soul mate, or what steps to take to find your ideal job.
You don’t need to be all the way at ease with this posture. The more you sink into n ot knowing, the more your inner sense, or inner knowingness begins to speak to you. This moment is an exciting moment of the spiritual journey. You begin to read the book of your own life and get super clear about what makes you unique and what brings you genuine satisfaction.
Clarity about who you are, and what makes you tick, combined with not knowing how your life will shape shift creates an invitation for your higher potential to take up the form of what you love.
What arises in you as you contemplate not knowing? I’d love to hear your experiences of opening to your inner knowing in the comments below.
Invitation to Embody your hearts purpose
There are two ways to navigate in life; one is with the habits of conditioning in the driving seat, and the other way is with consciousness in the driving seat.
When the habits of conditioning, or ego, is in the driving seat you can only keep creating what you’ve created before. To create life afresh, aligned with your higher spiritual potential, you need to know how to hold consciousness in the driving seat.
The skills of conscious navigation are a key feature of my new group program called Embody your heart’s purpose. When you navigate consciously you feel comfortable being yourself, enjoy greater honesty and authenticity in relationships, have clarity about important decisions and open the channel to good things happening in your life.
The program begins in March so there’s no rush, but please don’t hold back. The course is over half filled, at most there are 6 spots left. If you feel this course might be for you, let’s have a chat to help your clarity. Find out more, and arrange to have a conversation with me here.
This blog post made me smile, chuckle and nod my head in recognition.
For a long time, I thought I had to figure life out. Rather than walking the maze and learning by trial and error, I wanted someone to give me the plan, to give me all the answers, and then to walk that maze as perfectly as possible (so I could find my way with as little struggle as possible.) In many ways, my quest for spiritual growth was my desire to “figure it all out.” This only led to frustration, self judgment (when I couldn’t figure it all out!) and pain.
I recently completed a study of developmental science, attachment theory and child development in my desire to understand our human side more deeply. What fascinated me was learning how in a healthy child-parent relationship, a child depends on the parent – puts their faith and trust in the parent (the alpha) as the one meeting their needs. This loving relationship then is the container for the child’s unfolding and development – on a brain level, it puts a child to rest so that they are free to grow.
I felt the tingle of truth when I realized that the metaphor is also true for life. That in surrendering to and depending on something greater than myself – my own ego, my own conditioning – I am also free to grow. When I put my faith and trust in life, that life holds me in its hands, I find the deep rest that allows me to grow.
Thank you for the food for thought, Fiona!
I’m celebrating your epiphany, Karly. Awakening is always a paradox. The more let go of what we think we should do, the more we find we are supported, held and guided by Life. I love too, that you’re finding deep connections in the realms of psychology and with your direct experience. Love,