Physical pain and illness is a wake up call. A tap on the shoulder from Life to come alive.
Kate came to me for help to heal a frozen shoulder. It seized up about the time she started dating.
Just a coincidence?
Not when we examine life from the perspective that everything is connected.
The gift in the pain
After fifteen years of on and off relationships Kate was disheartened and concluded she had a problem with intimacy.
“Why can’t I meet the right man?” she asked. Kate was attractive, loved life, longed to have a family but ended up dating men who failed to be a match for her zest for life, or ended the relationship when the conversation turned to starting a family.
She had tried many different treatments for her shoulder pain with little or no success and was tired of trying to get better.
Searching the internet for a solution she came across the idea that pain is a gift in disguise.
This made no sense to her but nevertheless was curious to find out more.
The message in the pain
I asked Kate how she felt about her frozen shoulder. She said she felt the same kind of resignation about her shoulder as she did about her relationships. She’d tried many kinds of treatments but nothing had resolved the pain.
She also shared that she enjoyed being self-reliant but found the weight of her responsibilities a burden and wanted a partner to share the load.
Connect the dots
Kate’s description of her attempts to find a mate were beginning to sound a lot like her experience with her shoulder. She couldn’t rely on her shoulder and nor could she find a man to support her.
When this kind of similarity occurs it points to the possibility that our pain is a wake up call.
Our physical bodies can’t talk with words, they talk in symbols.
Kate’s feeling of being tired of holding up responsibilities was mirrored in how her shoulder could not support it’s own weight.
Deep down in cellular memory
In a gentle inquiry Kate came face to face with a buried memory. What surfaced both surprised her and simultaneously made sense.
She saw how mother, grandmother, great grandmother and had either lost their spouse to early death or had been abandoned. In every case the women had been left to raise children on their own.
From shock to melting
Kate inhaled deeply as the realization dawned that her inability to find a mate concealed a fear that if she found someone to love and start a family with he would either die or leave her to fend for herself.
As Kate stood in witness to her past compassion rose up for the struggle and strain her mother’s line endured. Waves of tears followed and then relief. Kate’s courage to fully face her pain released a pattern of energy in her body. A shift that extended into her life in general and down her ancestral line.
Over the next six months Kate treated her shoulder to gentle yoga and body work. This time she gradually regained mobility and dissolved pain. More than this, Kate knew that she was now free of repeating her past relationship history. She felt fresh optimism for finding a partner she could lean on and open her heart to.
A Clarity Conversation
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Note: Messages held in the body are never cookie cutter messages. Our bodies are amazing sophisticated systems and everyone is different. If you’re looking for clarity to aid your healing journey have an open mind. This ensures that you gain clear and accurate guidance for healing and spiritual awakening.
Fiona Moore is a coach and healing consultant. She shares a simple, direct understanding of our true nature and how to live with health, happiness and peace of mind.
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