One of the best things about my work is that I get to talk with people from all walks of life who want to liberate love in their life and world.
They might not associate our conversations with love, at least not initially.
They tend to come with a shopping bag of problems and a mind crammed with judgments about their relationships, purpose, health, wellbeing or spiritual grounding.
However, it turns out the perfect starting point to uncover love is….
A mind brimming with judgment
Judgments have a lot to answer for.
Without judgments problems would not exist. Despair and upset would be impossible and wars would end.
Think about it. If your mind did not perceive what’s in front of you, or bearing down on you as wrong, ill-timed, or unwanted. There would be no problem.
But a mind without judgments is a big ask, if not an impossibility.
A judgmental mind is inevitable
At birth a child’s mind is innocent. Untouched, sacred and pure. There is not a whiff of judgment, belief, or bias.
However, within months two major events begin:
1. A child’s mind is bombarded with family, cultural and societal beliefs about what is good, bad, right and wrong.
2. The child’s mind does what it’s designed to do; takes beliefs and judgments and, like playing with lego bricks, builds an identity called ‘me’.
The confluence of these events bake judgments into the ego-self called ‘me’. In other words we can’t escape having a judgmental mind.
The trap of being judgmental
Whether we find fault with ourself, or project our judgments onto others the result is the same; suffering occurs.
Nothing is gained by going to war with a judgment-conditioned mind.
The layering of negative, contradictory judgments is an automatic process which operates in the basement of the unconscious.
An antagonistic attitude towards our mind only feeds the layers of judgments that imprison and define our behavior.
Yet, deeper than judgment there remains an innocent pure core.
So, it is imperative to ask…
How to heal the pain of being judgmental
Thankfully, dissolving multitudes of judgments does not take the years it’s taken for a judgment-based mind to calcify as the ego-self.
All that is required for healing and transformation is the willingness to question thought in the moment.
The ‘practice’ goes like this:
When a thought is noticed (it doesn’t matter if the thought is positive or negative).
Investigate the thought with this question:
Could I notice this thought and not buy into it?
[‘Not buy into it’ – meaning; not believe, agree, disagree, fight or, adopt.]Each time a thought is questioned you cultivate being the witness of thought as opposed to turning thought into an unquestioned belief.
In this practice layers of unconscious judgment-based thought, fragment and dissolve.
Just like an entire iceberg floats to the surface of the ocean and dissolves when the tip of the iceberg melts.
What remains?
In the absence of judgment the heart moves to the foreground.
Even a tiny relaxation of judgment releases corrosive underpinnings of a conditioned mind and aligns the mind with our unconditionally loving nature.
From here, fresh, insightful thought arises, compassionate actions mobilize, and a view of the world as a place of wonderment emerges.
Give your heart the space and support to live free of judgments.
Your life will never be the same again.
Love,
Fiona
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